When we try to develop these key elements of life in our children, we don't become fixated on perfection and expect our children to be perfect and beyond mistakes and failures. Huh?
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Dear parents,
As parents raising young children while overcoming all kinds of social pressures and family difficulties, I always wonder if we have a concept of what we want for our children. Do we ask ourselves, “What do I want my child to do or have?” Do we make a list of attributes and acquisitions? Perhaps we do, and that list includes education, good health, sufficient wealth, and virtuous deeds as prerequisites for a happy life. , we will do our best to ensure them a future that is recognized as “successful” worldwide. eyes of the world
But in our attempts to further enhance these key elements of life in our children, we expect them to be perfect, beyond mistakes and failures, and we become fixated on perfection. Isn't it like that? How much room are we prepared to give them to make mistakes, fall behind, and learn from their failures on their journey to adulthood?
If you think about it, perfection is a myth. You and I are not infallible. We all stumbled, fell, got up, and walked to get to where we are today. We learned from injuries, from hard impacts, and from the cost of failure. And those insightful moments have served as sentinels guarding our steps into the future.
From that perspective, our flaws were our greatest assets. They refined and defined us. Similar to the Japanese art of kintsugi, where broken pottery is repaired with gold, the golden crack lines further enhance the beauty of the piece. We are who we are today not because of perfection, but because of our flaws and defeats. So let's embrace our children as fine porcelain, accept their flaws and help mend the cracks with gold.
Our children are not sent to us loaded with a set of most admirable traits that we can wear like a badge of honor as parents. We are given the task of being their friends, philosophers, and guides throughout their lives. Our responsibility is to keep an eye on them and prevent them from falling into evil ways, but that does not involve pointing out their flaws or making them feel insecure or inadequate. It also doesn't help to remind them of their obligation to be perfect in everything they do. Although it can be said that it is all for the benefit of the child, I have witnessed many parents indulging in this pathetic behavior. But that argument is baseless.
Give children tolerance and freedom to fail. However, be careful to only fall down in front of you. All mistakes require knowledge and correction. Forgiveness is not an indefinite forgiveness. It must make them realize what it has cost them and resolve to be cautious and cautious in the future. It gives them the courage to take risks and venture out into the world, based on the knowledge that it's okay to fail if you're willing to push yourself up again.
Our children may not have perfect scores, they may not be the smartest kids in the neighborhood, or they may not be the best speakers or performers. They may not have the “wow” factor that makes our social media proud. They may not do the usual things or be rough around the edges, but as long as we support them, nothing can stop them from growing and brightening their lives. There is room for them to grow in the allowances we give them. Until next time, happy parenting.
