We are really lost and looking for a reason to become parents. I asked many other people. Now we're asking you. can you help?
to be decided: I think this may be one of those cases of “if I have to ask, I won't do it.” I can definitely say that raising children (especially in the early years) can be exhausting. Parenthood can be extremely draining, expensive, and sometimes heart-wrenching and soul-sucking (especially when you're a teenager). And…while there is no “end time” for parenting, it seems like it ends too soon. Because for many parents, the experience during an exhausting, frustrating, frightening, and debilitating period is made of spun gold.
When you become a parent, your concept of a “happy ending” changes. Happy endings for parents often mean sleeping through the night, attending a business meeting without spitting on your blazer, walking out of the emergency room with a recovering child, walking through a blizzard. It means things like getting your teen home safely. Some of life's happiest happy endings and greatest lessons come through the everyday experiences of parenthood. So look at the families around you. If being with other families fulfills your longings, then take the plunge.
Raising children is not something that everyone can do. Unfortunately, it is the children who ultimately bear the burden of their parents' choices.
Dear Amy: My friend “Jennifer” and I moved into an apartment together last year. We both have rental contracts. Initially, we agreed that if we wanted to have boyfriends or other guests staying over on a regular basis, we would limit it to her twice a week at most. I have a boyfriend and am abiding by this agreement. I often work from home, so it's important for me to live in a fairly quiet and peaceful environment.
Jennifer's sister lives nearby, and for the past two months she has been spending five to six nights a week at our apartment. According to her, it was because her roommate's boyfriend started staying at the apartment. Besides, our apartment is much nicer than hers. I enjoy being with her to an extent, but when her two sisters are together they tend to be loud and messy and it just adds to the chaos. I talked to Jennifer about this and she seems reluctant to enforce this rule on her sister.
At this point I'm feeling exhausted and stressed by this situation. what do you think i should do?
Roomy: You and “Jennifer” discussed this when you moved in together (a very wise move on your part), and she agreed to this restriction on sleepovers. Women need to check the language in their rental agreements (many rental agreements essentially prohibit other people from moving in) and discuss this calmly and openly with each other.
Jennifer's sister understands the pressure of living with an “extra” person because her roommate's boyfriend kicked her out of the house. The two sisters may want to find their own home, but they must agree now and follow the house rules they decided upon when they moved in together.
Dear Amy: “get annoyedIn “, he reported that his parents had passed away, and he didn't like it when his brothers said, “We're going to see mom and dad'' when they went to the cemetery. She felt that since their family had passed away, she should not speak of them in the present tense.
In my opinion, “frustrated” is the wrong word. I am my family's designated basement caretaker. When I go to clean the graves of my relatives, I often chat with them, especially my parents. This does not tarnish their memory at all. Both of my sisters live out of town, and I sometimes send them photos of their graves after I tend to them. I think people who are irritated need to take cold medicine.
Betsy: This question received a great response from readers. I love reading many memorials to loved ones who have passed away, and many of my readers, like you, visit grave sites and talk to their families.
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