How we perceive a conversation depends on our level of connection and intimacy with the other person. However, if you keep everything in your head, things can become very negative, so you need to be careful. “Some of us are very easy to get along with, while others are difficult to connect with and communicate with. Overall, our level of emotional maturity, confidence, and self-esteem dictates how we approach things. Here are some things to consider when you find yourself reacting emotionally and taking things instead of just reacting when someone pushes your buttons. Yes, it is personal,” therapist Ketam Hamdan wrote.
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Here are some tips to help you avoid taking things personally all the time.
pause and reflect: Instead of being triggered, you need to pause for a moment and reflect on why that conversation was triggered for you and why it hurt you.
Assume positive content: Instead of looking at things negatively, you should assume that there is something positive in them. This will help you look on the bright side.
Recognize triggers: We need to be aware of our own triggers and know how to recognize them. This will help you effectively deal with triggers in a healthy way.
practice empathy: Instead of reacting, you should try to handle the situation with compassion and empathy for the other person. By doing so, we can become more kind.
maintain boundaries: We need to be kind and considerate, but we also need to be strict about our boundaries. We must communicate boundaries and their importance to those around us.
challenge assumptions: Not everything we think is true. We should challenge our thoughts and assumptions and try to find the truth within them.
Develop a growth mindset: Instead of being triggered by the conversation, we should try to find out what the conversation is teaching us and what we can learn from it. When you develop a growth mindset, every situation can be an opportunity to become a better version of yourself.
