If you're looking for “life-changing” parenting tips, Drew Barrymore shares advice she learned from parenting books. As parents know, children can have a lot of emotions. One of the most difficult parts of dealing with it is knowing when to intervene and how to regulate your own big emotions in response to your child's emotions.
According to TODAY, Barrymore had Aliza Pressman, a psychologist, parenting expert, and author of “The Five Principles of Parenting'' as a guest on her show on January 23rd, and she thanked the guest immensely. and shared how certain tips have helped them in their own lives. This book forever changed her life as a parent.
Our evolutionary instinct as parents is that when our children are upset about something, we immediately want to improve and fix it. Barrymore said her daughter Olive went through a phase many years ago where she became so upset that Barrymore immediately went to Olive to try to help her get better. Whenever Barrymore tried to pursue Olive, her daughter would either run away or become reactionary. “I didn’t understand,” she said.
However, through the advice of Aliza's book, Barrymore realized that chasing Olive and trying to resolve her big feelings right away was not good for anyone. “It's like two extremes, and Aliza taught me discipline,” Barrymore said.
And she said she has taken Aliza's advice to learn to step away to give her daughter space when big emotions arise, and to take time to regulate her own emotions before dealing with the situation. Barrymore said following this advice has given her the “best results” she's ever had with parenting, something she never thought she'd do before.
Ariza replied: “I think we're so afraid of big emotions that we want to fix them. And we go after them.”
“Yes!” cried Barrymore. “I was literally chasing her!”
Ariza goes on to say, “We're afraid of emotions. And emotions are not dangerous.'' As adults, we need to first control ourselves and be able to say, “Okay, I'm not being chased by a bear.'' It is important. She said this is not an emergency, just a feeling.
Araiza linked this behavior and coping techniques to weather. “But we need our children to know how to dress for the weather, rather than trying to control it, because they can't. So they have to learn how to carry their emotions. We can understand better and know that we can survive and that we are not upset,” she said.
You know the saying, if there's a plane crash, put on your mask before helping others? This also applies to parenting. Before you jump in and try to solve everything, first get your feet on the ground and allow your child to feel their feelings. As parents, it's hard to do that because it's so ingrained in us to want to fix everything and not make our children feel uncomfortable, but dealing with big feelings and emotions requires a lot of effort between parents and children. How much you learn from both sides is very important. Disappointed.
