of 50 first dates The 48-year-old star, who has daughters Olive, 11, and Frankie, 9, with ex-husband Will Kopelman, revealed in a recent episode the advice that changed the way she raises her children. The Drew Barrymore Show, We were joined by parenting expert and psychologist Dr. Aliza Pressman.
Barrymore said she received this advice from Dr. Pressman many years ago when her daughter Olive was “going through a phase.”
“You especially changed my life,” Barrymore told the psychologist. “I had a daughter, Olive. I know Aliza, but she was going through a phase. This was many years ago. When she was in a bad mood, I I went to them and tried to make things better.”
However, according to the actress, it was “the last thing”. [her daughter] need or want. ”
“I didn't understand. She was either going to run away or come back at me. But either way, it was like two extremes of not being good,” she said. continued.
Barrymore said Dr. Pressman instead taught her how to “control” herself in moments like these.
“You walk into a room and say, “I know it's taking a minute, but I'll be waiting on the other side of this door.'' When you're ready, I'll be here. '' Barrymore recalled. “And I went outside and took a deep breath. That gave me the best results I've ever had in parenting, but in a way I never thought possible.”
In response to Barrymore's explanation, Dr. Pressman noted that parents are often “very scared.” [their child’s] They have “big emotions” and want to “solve” them.
“And we're going after them,” she continued, and Barrymore agreed that's exactly what she was doing even before taking the advice. During our conversation, Dr. Pressman also noted that it's normal for parents to feel this way, but that it's important to be able to control those emotions.
Say, “I know you're taking a moment, but I'll be waiting for you on the other side of this door.”
“As an adult, you can control yourself and say, 'Okay, I'm not being chased by a bear.'” My daughter wasn't chased by a bear. ” That means it's not an emergency. It's an emotion,” she said, adding that instead teaching her children “how to have emotions and that they can survive and we don't get upset” can be helpful, she added.
This isn't the first time Barrymore has spoken candidly about parenting, previously revealing that she was “scared” when she became a parent for the first time.
“I didn't expect to feel like I was in fight-or-flight mode for so long. I thought it would be a little more romantic and cozy, but instead it was just scary.” she recalled on an episode of the TV show “Dear Drew.” entertainment tonight. “I was so sleep-deprived, I couldn't eat, I was so nervous all the time, and no one really talked to me about how scary and overwhelming it was… so… , I wasn’t mentally prepared for that.”
At the time, Ms Barrymore also admitted she felt “very alone” before assuring other mothers who felt the same way that “they are not alone.”
“I felt alone with that. So if there are other moms out there who felt that way in the beginning, you're not alone, I felt that way too,” she said. “To a mom who felt casual and competent, you're a superhero. I wish I could be like you too.”
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