It's difficult to quantify whether today's parents are more strict or permissive than previous generations, but the overall sentiment seems to be that parents are more permissive than they were decades ago. is.
A YouGov poll found that young Americans are more likely than their elders to be raised by parents who are “not very strict” or “not strict at all.” 39% of people under 30 say their parents were not very strict or not strict at all, compared to just 15% of people over 65.
Nicola Krauss, author of “The Nanny Diaries,'' believes that this is a natural consequence of the fact that we know more about children than we used to.
“We are deeply aware that our children are human beings, aware and conscious in ways that previous generations did not realize. “I was treated like a release valve for the worst of horrors, and then expected to magically transform into a healthy, functioning adult,” she writes.
But this change in parenting is fostering another trend that many believe is creating more entitled young people who are unable to protect themselves. These days, we have helicopter parents, bulldozer parents, and dependent parents who are too involved in their children's lives to become fully integrated adults.
Reddit user u/qquackie asked on an online forum, “What is a 'trend' in parenting that you strongly disagree with?” And we received an overwhelming number of responses from people who believe that today's parents are raising entitled children.
Many respondents believe that parents are oversensitive to their children and do not set clear boundaries. They also think it's a big problem for children to think they are the center of the universe.
Here are the 21 most popular answers to parenting questions.
1. Parenting is pretending it's not parenting.
“I don't ask my child to stop kicking me over and over again because I don't want to break his spirit!” — Stoic Donkey
2. Deny your child of negative experiences and emotions.
“Teach them that they are a normal part of being human and deal with negative emotions now before sending them out into a world they are not equipped to deal with.” — IAmRules
3. False “kind parenting”
“I see and hear too many parents letting their children do what they want, no matter how destructive, disrespectful, or hurtful that behavior is. Parents are not authentically parenting. In the name of gentle parenting, you find yourself held captive by the whims of your child's emotions.'' Gentle parenting, where boundaries are set at the same time that emotions are justified. ” — Kandianak
4. Not setting clear boundaries
“You are an adult, not a child. Children benefit much more from clear rules and consequences.” — north weight 3580
5. Parent of “Bulldozer”
“Parents who remove all obstacles and challenges from their children's lives will prevent them from learning perseverance, problem solving, failure (sometimes hard work doesn't pay off), and learning from mistakes – to grow. It's great to be a bulldozer parent because you're a very anxious person unless that's your goal.” — Spinefex Mouse
6. Stage Mom Syndrome
“Abusing a child's talents solely to enhance one's self-image in society.” — sweettooth_92
7. Non-stop monitoring
“Hover your mouse over them at every angle. What happened to throwing them onto a play area in another room and letting them create, explore, and occasionally bump into each other?” — Uncily
8. Don't believe your teacher
“'My child never lies.'” — jdith123
9. “No talking back!”
“If this is also important…Parents who punish their children for saying or explaining something by saying they're 'talking back.'” — Entry Representative 5
10. Helicopter Parenting
“Children need the freedom to explore the world, get dirty, and play freely. I insist on letting my kids out on Saturday mornings and telling them to go home when the streetlights come on. I don't think they do, but they need an age-appropriate level of freedom.” — Cat_Astrophe_X
11. Pushing yourself too hard
“We push them too hard in sports, academics, etc. It's like pushing them to the point where they need medical treatment or get injured, and there's no free time or downtime. FFS, it's great that they don't have to take on too much responsibility at a young age. Only once.” — Oh, Ophelia
12. Tablets in public places
“Playing loud cartoons or games on your tablet in public places.” — StarrCreationsLLC
13. Potty training too late
“Oh, I'm a nanny and I work in a daycare center. I can talk about this a lot. One of them is slow potty training. It's becoming more and more common to wait to potty train your child. I pretty much agree with this, I’ll wait until they say,” Go back to 2.5-3 and knock it out. Some will take longer, while others can probably be prepared faster. Better to rush into trouble than cause trouble. What happened to this? It's not potty training. I babysit her 4 year old who is still doing pull-ups. She can now use the toilet fully. A diaper genie was installed in our 4-year-old's classroom because so many of her 4-year-olds are starting kindergarten in diapers. A good friend of mine who is a kindergarten teacher had two of her children start kindergarten in diapers. Luckily they are potty trained now. ” — Meaning of cleaning
14. Kids on social media
“Create social media channels for children and upload videos and photos of them there. It's the perfect place for pedophiles.” — AJSK18
15. Too much structure
“I think the overall trend is to prioritize academics, extracurricular activities, and college admissions over everything else. Let kids do household chores and let them hang out with friends outside of structured sports and music activities. please.” – Haus Frau 224
16. Tablet addiction
“It's a pain to actually be a parent and pay attention to your kids, so I always give them tablets and phones to keep them busy.” — ZRuneDemonX
17. Let your child make all the choices.
“I think children should make rational choices, such as what snacks they have or the character on their bedspread, but you can't let a 3-year-old decide when it's okay to leave the house. That’s not how it works.” — Tihojuda
18. Silence
“We say, 'What happens in this house stays in this house.'” I know hundreds of abuse survivors who have suffered for years because of these words. Masu. ” — Dixie McCrant
19. Birthday
“Social media trends continue to increase expectations for birthday parties and any celebration related to children. When I was a kid, birthdays consisted of homemade invitations that I made, cakes from the grocery store. , consisted of food made by my mother.Today's expectations were: monthly birthdays and half birthdays, a giant balloon arch that would be thrown in the trash, a customized three-tiered fondant cake, and a color-coordinated That consists of gift wrapping, “favors for themed parties, and, of course, very intentional attire for the numerous photo shoots that will take up most of the day. Anything for the 'gram, right?” Don’t even get me started on the gender reveal announcement.” — Little Bunsen Burner
20. Parents, not friends
“You try to be a 'friend' to your child, not a parent. Parents are there to provide exemplary guidance and responsible behavior. And yes, sometimes there are consequences for your actions.” , setting boundaries can be difficult and the child won't be very happy.' — Data Plenty
21. You're not special
“Perpetuating the myth that your children are somehow special means that 97% of the time, they are not. It is far better to raise children to believe that they are special people.''There are some talents, but there are also some flaws and weaknesses. ” — Teacher's Assistant
This article was originally published on 2.20.23.
